I want my hair done like this… but my hair shrinks? ANY PROFESSIONALS THAT KNOW ALOT ABOUT HAIR?

I want my hair done like this… but my hair shrinks? ANY PROFESSIONALS THAT KNOW ALOT ABOUT HAIR?

Question: In the picture I was watching a video and she did it with her natural hair just by using perm roles? I think they’re called but anyways I want my natural hair like that but unfortunately my hair shrinks when I sweat not too much but pretty sure enough to show a difference too when I first do the hair it also shrinks all the way down when it gets wet the only way I chould get my hair its biggest is to blow dry it but I dont want to keep doing that if thats the case… I also saw videos of people making their own wigs with the hair but I DO NOT want to wear wigs lol im terrified of them itsa personal problem lol, anyways I want my natural hair like that but it shrinks as I said when I sweat and I do sweat sometimes. Can I just get a perm first then do that to my hair? Or will that not work? I know I cant get it as big as hers (maybe with a few pieces of weave here amd there) but I would like to use as much as my natural hair as I can. Please help any professionals that can help me get my natural hair like that and keep it from shrinking too much?



greetings lady. I am not a professional but I do know a lot about natural hair. Ok let’s talk prep. 

Your need to be moisturized before you start. So that means co-wash, deep conditioner, and finally a leave in. We don’t want your hair needing moisture….this will keep the frizziness down. 

Next we need a nice curling cream. I don’t know your climate, hair texture or eating habits so I can not suggest a curly cream for you but i use a mixture of gel/curly custard and mix a liquid oil. This will help form the curl and seal in the moisture. 

Roller set the hair. Let it air dry if you do not wish to use heat. 

Ooooh snap let me back up! To stretch your hair check out the Curl Tee towel video on my website. I used it to stretch my hair without a long drawn out technique. 

Ok so the hair is dry now you use a silicon to seal in the curls and reduce shrinkage. 

Tie the hair up in a loose bun and wrap in a silk/satin scarf. 

I have shrinkage too and by pineappling or loose bun keeps the hair stretch too. Silicon helps keep the moisture out of the hair and thus prevents shrinkage and frizziness too. 

Hope this helps. 
Melia V. 



Best conditioner for 4b/4c?


Question: I’m going natural and I started co washing I shop at target for natural hair products what are some good conditioners that I can get there? -drea Thomas

Drea Thomas, 
Congrats on your journey. Your question in my experience is two levels. The first is a conditioner that is very economical and cheap. We are talking Sauvé on the dollar wrack. Second is the high choice conditioner I like Hello Hydration for moisture, Aussie 3 minute miracle, and Aussie moisture. 
I use the first to just get the initial clean going and once that level is achieved I put on the good stuff. This is on average two cheap washes to one good stuff wash. I spend about five minutes on each round. On the final round of which I am usually in the shower, I leave it in and wash my body while it sitting in my hair. 

After I rinse the conditioner out I follow up with a cold rinse to seal my pores and after towel drying I put on a leave-in conditioner. Which is a must and will make all the difference in keeping your hair moisturized? 
You can check out a video I did on how I stretched my hair out using no heat and a Curl Tee towel. 

Hope this helps, 

Melia V. 






Does getting Havanna/ Marley twists done to your hair Hurt?


Question: I am getting my hair put into these twists this evening so If you could reply as soon as possible that would be great. As a tenderheaded person I would like to know if getting these lager twist done to my scalp will cause me pain. I have gotten my hair done in small box braids and it has felt like they were sewing my scalp with a 
thread and needle. So Im wondering if I get marley twist will these hurt less or not at all. It would be great if I could get answers from tenderheads, but anyone will be a large help to me… Thank you! -Angela 


Hey Lady, you are too cute. I feel your pain though. I am so tender headed that 99% of the time I do my own hair. I am in my thirties and when I go get my hair pressed by this Dominican I still get tears in my eyes. I sooooo feel your pain. 

I don’t know when you wrote this but I am going to respond anyway just in case someone else has the same question. 

No they do not hurt. They are one of a tender headed naturalists BFF hair styles on the serious note. There is no tugging or pulling of hair like with braids. With Havana twists you do not have to get it tight to the scalp to look good or last long with braids. You can now breathe a sign of relief. 

When I was young I was so tender headed that when my mom when to get the brush and comb to do my hair, everyone else in the room would get up and do something else because they knew how much hollering I was about to do. Seriously! 

I love Havana twists I do them every summer since I found out about them and I do them for the whole summer until my birthday which is coming up shortly in about a month. 

I will say that they do not last as long as twist. So you can do the short cut way which is rotate doing the front and back in order to maintain the style. I talk about this on my site. 

I so hope you let me know how it when for you. Seriously, find me on face book. 

Hope this helps, 
Melia V. 


How do i comb my nappy hair?


Question: I’m African american and my hair is really nappy. And I don’t really know how to comb my hair, like the middle and the back, because if I can’t see how can I comb it and don’t know how to part my hair either. -anonymous


There are two utensils naturalist use to comb their hair. One is a denman brush the other is a wide tooth comb. 

The Denman brush is used to detangle and prep the hair for styling such as twists, braids, dominicans use it before pressing the hair and is more gentle on the hair than the comb because of the design. So before parting you should thoroughly detangle every other wash if and especially when keeping your hair in a style longer than two weeks. I like the denman brush personally. 

DO NOT get the denman brush with the balls on the end. This begin to pull your hair out as the brush wears out. I talk about this in my monthly natural guide. The kind you should get has no balls on the end of the bristles and when you do find a brush like that you should get a few because for some reason they can be hard to locate. 

Second is the wide tooth comb also for detangling. Sometimes the hair can be super knotty so a wide tooth comb is in order especially when your hair is wet. You want to take your time so that you won’t cause breakage. So pick a time when you are not in a rush. 

Youtube is a good source for you. It is such a wide variety of styles and DIY. Don’t forget to like my channel too.;)

Hope this helps, 

Melia V. 


7 healthy reasons to have more sex

7 healthy reasons to have more sex

Blog Repost: Amanda MacMillan

If you really need an excuse (or several) to heat things up in the bedroom, we’ve got you covered: Besides the obvious reasons one might have sex—love, pleasure, baby-making—science shows that there are quite a few health benefits to getting intimate. The next time your partner asks, “Was it good for you?” you can say yes—in more ways than one!

Sex burns calories
Yes, knocking boots counts as exercise—and it sure beats the gym! Depending on how physical you get, sex can strengthen muscle tone, increase your heart rate, and get your whole body working, said Justin Lehmiller, lecturer in the department of psychology at Purdue University and author of “The Psychology of Human Sexuality.” And according to a 2013 study in which volunteers wore activity trackers while they did the deed, men burn about 101 calories per session, while women torch an average of 69.

“Relatively speaking, that’s not a huge amount,” Lehmiller said.

He points out, however, that sex in the study (from foreplay to orgasm) lasted an average of 25 minutes.

“If you have sex for a longer period of time, you can have even more of those calorie-burning benefits.” 10 Reasons You’re Not Having Sex

Sex helps you sleep
After orgasm, the body releases a relaxation hormone called prolactin, said Kristin Mark, director of the Sexual Health Promotion Lab at the University of Kentucky.

“If you’re not feeling particularly tired beforehand, having sex and reaching orgasm may certainly help you nod off a little more quickly than you would have otherwise,” she said.

Sex lowers your blood pressure and stress levels
In a 2005 Scottish study, volunteers were asked to record their sexual activity for two weeks and were then given anxiety-inducing tasks, like public speaking or solving math problems out loud. Those who’d had sex over the study period experienced smaller blood pressure spikes, and recovered from them more quickly, than those who hadn’t. (Only penile-vaginal intercourse seemed to have this effect, not masturbation or other forms of sexual activity.) 20 Weird Things You Didn’t Know About Sex

The study suggests two important benefit of regular sex, Mark said: Better blood pressure control, and better stress management overall.

“Sex not only lowers people’s perceived levels of stress, but it also appears to helps them handle stress more effectively, as well,” she says.

Sex strengthens your heart
Regular sex may benefit the cardiovascular system in other ways. A British study found that men who had sex at least twice a week over a period of 20 years were less likely to have died from heart disease than those who got it on less than once a month. After 10 years, in fact, their risk of sudden death was 50 percent less than that of the group that had less sex, although that gap lessened over the next decade.

These sorts of findings only show a correlation, not causation, Mark said. “People who have healthy sex lives probably have overall healthy lifestyles.”

Even so, she suspects there may be a connection: “Sex helps regulate hormones like estrogen and testosterone,” she says, “which impacts all kinds of systems in the body, including the heart.” 7 Foods for Better Sex

Sex may protect against cancer
Some studies have suggested that men who ejaculate more frequently may have a reduced risk of prostate cancer—although the difference appears to be very small, and others haven’t found a conclusive link.

The benefits may be clearer for breast cancer prevention, however: A French study found that women who had sex at least once a month were less likely to develop breast cancer than those who didn’t. And while the disease is rare in men, those who orgasm less than six times a month appear to be at increased risk of breast cancer compared to those who do so more often, according to a Greek study.

Sex boosts immunity
Getting busy on a weekly basis stimulates the immune system and provides protection from the common cold, according to a Wilkes University study. Researchers gave college students questionnaires about their sex lives, then tested their saliva for levels of immunoglobulin A (IgA), an antibody that helps fight off viruses. They found that the students who had sex once or twice a week had 30% more IgA than those who had sex less frequently. (They also, however, had higher IgA levels than those who had sex three times a week or more, suggesting that in this case, maybe you can get too much of a good thing.) 15 Everyday Habits to Boost Your Libido

Sex relieves pain
Women often because of headaches, or so the cliché goes—but, according to a 2013 German study, going through with it may actually help them feel better. When study volunteers chose to have sex during a headache episode, about 60 percent of migraine sufferers and 30% of cluster headache sufferers reported partial or total relief.

Endorphins released during orgasm, as well as increased blood flow to the genital area, likely play a role in sex’s pain-relieving power, Mark said. “Pain sometimes has to do with blood flowing to one particular area, like the head, and sex can take some of that pressure off by redirecting the flow.”


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